Tha truth is

Being a Father is very hard for me as I missed out of most of my kid's lyfe with tha previous women in my lyfe.  Now to be honest with you All my Kidz means more than tha world to me but tha ones I had with my wyfe I try to channel that energy into celebrating being a father and what they mean to my community and family and not making tha mistake I have made in my past... (Which for tha record tha two mistakes I did make when it came to tha choice of women I decide to make into a mother was tha biggest issues I had to face when it came to my other kidz lyfe) unfortunately, tha hate they have towards me was tha cause of tha abstinence. There are so many brothers that are amazing fathers to their children, and children in tha community. Some are married, others are co-parenting…and some are single dads. Yes, there are more single dads out there than we realize. Many of them are not on child support, nor can they bring themselves to file such. They are just doing what they have to in order to raise their children. Yes, we understand there are men out there that are absentee fathers shit I was one of them, abusive or have terrible relationships with their children. However, there is a secret we tend to forget every 2nd weekend in May…there are many mothers out there that are absent, abusive and have terrible relationships with their children. It's not a fighting point, it’s a fact and one we don’t pay attention to because men do not highlight it. We are not out there on Mother’s Day exposing tha horrible experiences they have with tha mothers of their children…or their own mom. Instead, it’s a time in which we come together to celebrate the mothers of our communities, and tha women that embody that spirit. We uplift tha very idea of what motherhood is and tha importance of such. This is what makes Mother’s Day so beautiful.




In all fairness its time we celebrate (Father’s Day) with tha same care and celebration. If we aren’t talking about deadbeat moms (yes, they really do exist) in May…let’s not have that discussion on Father Day We can offer our children what you as mothers cannot. Father is our perfect balance and we need them. They can teach tha children a different kind of strength and compassion, and they are awesome problem solvers. They are protectors, and nurturers to our children in ways we could never be. Father can't do things that mothers can do best we can only do it to tha best of our ability, but  See us dads can offer something different and its detrimental when it is not praised for tha splendor it is. It's time to celebrate fatherhood and tha importance of it in front of your children. Let stop airing out dirty laundry.… and know you wouldn’t be here without one just as you wouldn’t without a mom. Take tha time to recognize tha men that father their children and then some. Tha ones that show up at school and mentor as many children as they can. Take tha time to celebrate all tha great things fathers do every single day. Don't believe me look around I bet you see a father at work  We cook, do homework, coach, comb hair, potty train, kill tha monster under the bed, read bedtime stories, demand accountability, teach responsibility, help establish standards, and they get it done with their own laid-back dad way.

We need to be there.....

I would like to share some of tha challenges, struggles, and tha joys of being a father. From my child first step, to their first date As their father a relationship with my children is a very special one. Tha importance of a father’s role in shaping his children’s self-esteem is often underestimated and with that said Our children don’t come with an instruction manual either it's hard to figure some they shit out I swear.... But as their father we  have to figure a lot of things out for themselves when it came to raising our Kidz.... Shited to keep it real I had my 1st child  when I was 20 years old and my 2nd when I was 22. I was a very young man, with limited income, I lacked maturity, I was very selfish, and I had a lot of bad habits.

I remember sitting there one day watching my Daughters playing, and I became so overwhelmed with being that young, and having tha responsibility for raising two children at that age that I ran away and left my daughters behind. Think that I still had a chance to correct tha mistake by better myself I struggled with being responsible for raising my children, but I struggled more with being a role model for them, especially when I didn’t have my own lyfe together.....Raising children can be very tough, especially when you have them early in lyfe, and have limited resources. Preaching about not having kids until you’re financially stable, or married doesn’t help those who are already in this situation. I wasn’t married when my first child was born, and I surely didn’t have any money. Tha President of tha United States came from a single parent home with limited resources, which proves any child can achieve success as long as they have parents who love and support them. I decided to live ‪#‎lyfe‬ to learn how to be tha best at who I am as a man.... I don't never want to repeat tha ‪#‎mistake‬ I have made just want to correct as many as I can....before I say ‪#‎goodbye‬...... To tha guy that out there in these shoes now take it from me running away was not tha answer..... Stay and be there for your children;  As fathers we need to be there for our children regardless of what we are or what we have. My father was a man, who struggled with every aspect of his lyfe, but he never abandoned me, and he was always there for me until day he died. Our children don’t need us to be perfect, they just need us to be there!... I learn that tha hard way Fathers need to be tha best role models we can, and build our children up, not tear them down. As fathers we can tear our children down with our words, but we do it more by our deeds. Words are very important and words hurt. Tha positive words our children hear stays with them forever, tha negative words they hear can damage them forever. Tha relationship a father has with his children’s mother is very important.  People are not always compatible, and sometimes our feelings towards our spouses, or our children’s father or mother changes. Every day parents are faced with tha difficult decision of rather to remain in a relationship, or go their separate ways. If you and your child’s mother are separated, it is very important to work as hard as you can to maintain a positive and civil relationship with her mother. It is also important that we resist tha urge to say negative things about our children’s mother in front of them. Divorces, and breakups can be very tough, but we must think of tha impact our behavior has on our children. They are innocent victims of our failed relationships, and they usually wind up suffering the most, many times blaming themselves. It is our job to make our children know they are not responsible for our failed relationships.Being a father is tha most important job a man will have. Being a good role model and being there for our children can be tha difference between them having a lyfe of positivity and prosperity or a lyfe of struggle. Children who believe their fathers believe in them have higher self-esteem, and more self-confidence. Remember to love your children unconditionally, over-communicate with them, but above every thing else, be there for them. Tell them they can be, and encourage them to be whatever they want to be.  No goal is out of reach, no dream is too big if we give our children tha encouragement and support they need.  A father doesn’t need to be perfect; he does needs to be there,........

Righting My Wrongs

I be tha 1st to say I'm weird and have grown to accept that .....I'm a person who live #lyfe to learn it....I feel every human being has 3 #personalities Tha good, Tha bad and Tha crazy.... And with that said I like to share something with all tha father out with kids that's no longer with there mother... Now I'm just saying this from my #experience is easy to say all mane am I always take care of my kids but if all tha right #Elements not lined up in your lyfe it becomes #impossible until you get those elements in your lyfe lined up in order so you can be able to walk straight and focus on what's tha next most important thing to your #survival... Your #kidz they carry what we grind so hard to get and keep alive...Now I know you got fathers out there that can get tha #UnitedStates Father of the Year award... Salute to you..... Trust me you had certain elements are #characteristics that you may over looked in your lyfe that lined up... if those elements/characteristics  wasn't there for you.. you would be in tha category like most of us... I'm not proud to say it but I'm not ashamed either.... I struck out a many if times.... if you would compare it tha #entertainmentfield. I signed deals that was horrible I didn't think.. not  knowing it was better going #independent... I will admit I have #hurthearts and #brokepromises...And when I think about it it's saddens me... But to be honest it also remind me of why I got what I got today (I was bless) cause I learn from my mistakes to be able to correct them before they happen again.... This is one major step to for me in fixing one of two more deals/problem....That tha bad me walk away from... I came to really #understand tha #wisdom of tha grown folks speaking tha words of when u have a child it become no longer about u every move and decision you make affect that child so be sure.... And by me not really understand tha whole meaning of that metaphor earned me tha title of being a dead beat dad.....look I'm not perfect but I'm damn sure not no dead beat dad my title was given to me for not doing what there mother wanted I was more like it takes two to tangle... you meet me halfway I'll meet you halfway ....They was more like naw it's all a hundred percent your #responsibility....So as I grown I learn tha native language of tha wisdom of our Elder's....Provided me to be able to pack tha tools when it comes to fixing my lyfe problem/deals I walk away from are made in this lyfe I lead.....