Sunday, June 16, 2019

Tha truth is



Being a Father is very hard for me as I missed out of most of my kid's lyfe with tha previous women in my lyfe.  Now to be honest with you All my Kidz means more than tha world to me but tha ones I had with my wyfe I try to channel that energy into celebrating being a father and what they mean to my community and family and not making tha mistake I have made in my past... (Which for tha record tha two mistakes I did make when it came to tha choice of women I decide to make into a mother was tha biggest issues I had to face when it came to my other kidz lyfe) unfortunately, tha hate they have towards me was tha cause of tha abstinence. There are so many brothers that are amazing fathers to their children, and children in tha community. Some are married, others are co-parenting…and some are single dads. Yes, there are more single dads out there than we realize. Many of them are not on child support, nor can they bring themselves to file such. They are just doing what they have to in order to raise their children. Yes, we understand there are men out there that are absentee fathers shit I was one of them, abusive or have terrible relationships with their children. However, there is a secret we tend to forget every 2nd weekend in May…there are many mothers out there that are absent, abusive and have terrible relationships with their children. It's not a fighting point, it’s a fact and one we don’t pay attention to because men do not highlight it. We are not out there on Mother’s Day exposing tha horrible experiences they have with tha mothers of their children…or their own mom. Instead, it’s a time in which we come together to celebrate the mothers of our communities, and tha women that embody that spirit. We uplift tha very idea of what motherhood is and tha importance of such. This is what makes Mother’s Day so beautiful.




In all fairness its time we celebrate (Father’s Day) with tha same care and celebration. If we aren’t talking about deadbeat moms (yes, they really do exist) in May…let’s not have that discussion on Father Day We can offer our children what you as mothers cannot. Father is our perfect balance and we need them. They can teach tha children a different kind of strength and compassion, and they are awesome problem solvers. They are protectors, and nurturers to our children in ways we could never be. Father can't do things that mothers can do best we can only do it to tha best of our ability, but  See us dads can offer something different and its detrimental when it is not praised for tha splendor it is. It's time to celebrate fatherhood and tha importance of it in front of your children. Let stop airing out dirty laundry.… and know you wouldn’t be here without one just as you wouldn’t without a mom. Take tha time to recognize tha men that father their children and then some. Tha ones that show up at school and mentor as many children as they can. Take tha time to celebrate all tha great things fathers do every single day. Don't believe me look around I bet you see a father at work  We cook, do homework, coach, comb hair, potty train, kill tha monster under the bed, read bedtime stories, demand accountability, teach responsibility, help establish standards, and they get it done with their own laid-back dad way.