Tha first step to loving a stay at home parent is realizing that he/she is saving you money, at a cost. All of tha things that a stay at home parent does, affords others in those particular professions a living. For instance, dietitians get paid to monitor peoples eating habits, however, a stay at home parent doesn’t. The argument could be made that planning meals is not done tha entire day, however, it is a larger portion of tha day because, in addition to planning, tha meals have to be made. And then there is tha clean-up. This realization is essential to love a stay at home parent because it will allow you to get into their mind and their day to day struggle. Would a normal person be okay with doing tha work of three to five professionals, daily, all day with no real time for yourself, free of charge? If someone’s boss asked them to come in and work around tha clock for tha next week, with no pay, would they say yes? That’s tha plight of tha work at home parent. Although it is a rewarding position it also comes with uncertainty, loss of self, loss of goals, loss of worth at moments, and sometimes days of depression....be aware
Tha number one way to make a stay at home parent feel loved is to give her/him an actual break. A break where they don’t have to look after tha children, make meals, clean, or tend to needs outside her own. Something like an uninterrupted bath with a follow-up message will make them feel appreciated. Being a provider is spiritual, mental, physical, as well as financial. Another way that you can show a stay at home parent that you love them is to take something off of their plate for tha day. This will actually benefit them both. Try cleaning up tha kitchen after dinner as a way to show appreciation giving her a bit of downtime during tha wind-down part of tha night, which could, more often, lead to then showing appreciating back in many ways. To be painfully honest, one of tha top complaints in most marriages is tha lack of intimacy between husband and wyfe. A lot of that is due to your wyfe/husband just being tired and wanting to enjoy tha quiet time when tha children are sleep to themselves. If an individual takes some of tha work off of his/her partner hands, it will allow them to rest and have more energy for some alone time with him...
Finally, just be present when at home. Tha at home parent should know and understand that partner also needs wind down time when they get home. Tha problem really is that they either take too much time to wind down or they never stop winding down. When tha working individual is home on their off days he/she can be more active with helping with tha day to day that comes with looking after tha children and etc. Not to say spend all of their off days this way, however, a few off days out of tha month will do. It’s important to remember that tha both parties are doing this all day almost every day, days and any time that there can be ease tha burden will not only make yall happy but tha children as well. Tha way that your partner feels does affect tha children.
