Friday, October 9, 2015

DomesticViolence

A couple gets into a heated discussion that escalates into a shouting match. Tempers flare and tha cursing begins as neither party seems to back down.  In tha heat of the arguing tha woman involved punches tha man in the face.  She may not realize it but she does not view him as a victim because he is a man.  She also know that if he defends himself, or fights back tha police just might take him regardless of the fact that she threw the first punch.  She knows that in many cities this law is on her side no matter what, and there is a legion of women that have been battered that will rally to her aid. Many women would say he ought not hit her back…a man should never hit a woman.  I understand this concept, yet I would like to propose an alternative idea…NO ONE deserves to be abused nor hit PERIOD........Look at tha ills of domestic violence we must realize that this subject is not just about women and children.  There is an alarming number of men that endure physical and psychological abuse at tha hands of their female lover or spouse, and they suffer in silence.  Addressing this fact does not diminish tha plight of women who have suffered domestic violence.  We must realize that men are women safety in tha home should not be valued over another.  Some women don’t realize how big of a problem this has been until a male family member or friend is assaulted by his significant other, and he walks away bruised having not fought back.

For a long time we have lived in a society that says men are strong, and they are less than men if they take a beating from a woman. 2015-domestic-violence-black-men-hitting-women every woman isn’t a frail individual.  There are women that can deliver a jab that stings, and leaves a bruise.  I have sons, and I understand why it important to teach them to never hit a woman.  However, I admit that I am concerned about their position should a woman put her hands on him.  We as Men are not allowed any excuse for beating a woman.  It doesn’t matter tha stress we under our health…it doesn’t even matter if they provoked us verbally and/or physically; men ought not to hit.  I feel this is a severe double standard that must be addressed as we tackle the subject of #domesticviolence this month

There are many women that know their breaking point.  They know what actions or words would drive them to abuse and violence.  Many feel justified in whatever cause would provoke them; men are not allowed this leeway.  Men are human beings just like Woman.  They have feelings, and they can also be provoked to behave out of character.  Is it right for them to know that if a woman spat a man in tha face he have to restraining himself against hitting her and should automatically be tha pillar of restraint. Ladies this is unreasonable, hypocrisy, and a terrible double standard. Come on be honest

We, woman and men, should be physically safe in our relationships.  No one should have to endure physical nor psychological abuse NO ONE.  I know from experience that abuse and violence leaves scars. I would imagine that it would inflict damage on a female just as it has inflicted damage upon a Man. I call for us as people to summon our #humanity for all…not merely our own gender.  We should not only reach out to our sisters that are hurting as a result of domestic violence, but also our brothers. Domestic Violence is not just about women…it’s about human beings. We must stand with PEOPLE that are victims of domestic violence.. Not just Women