I can clearly remember how excited I was when I found out I was going to be a daddy. I was 19 years old and a newly to tha real meaning of love........I was on cloud nine and we both thought we would have this parenting and lyfe thing all in check......OMG how we was sooooooooo wrong....I was 20 when my first child was born. It took all of 30 minutes after getting home from tha hospital for us to realize we had no freaking clue what we were doing.....We did get our bearings and figured out a few things about parenting but by that time tha stress kill what ever it was we had and some how it ended in chaos giving birth to my 2nd child will now my oldest is about be a young lady graduating from high school........Look...being a parent are parenting itself can be incredibly rewarding or a pain in tha Ass....... There are some things that lyfe experience will teach you. It would be nice if everything always went as planned with parenting, but this isn’t a movie and that’s not reality.
Here are five things no one tells you about being a parent....I had to figure out for myself...........
1. There will be times when you can’t stand your kids. YES TRUST ME
We all know those parents who say parenting is always wonderful, but I think we’ll agree they’re a little off. Parenting is a joy, but sometimes kids make us want to scream. They hide things, they lie and they fight. They do one or tha other everyday. There is no off switch and you have to be on guard 24/7....... Any come prepared with military tactics straight out the wound...........There will be more times than you can count when you’ll need a vacation from your kids. There will be times when they do things that will have you scratching your head. Tha only thing you can do is try to remember how we were when we were kids, and try to guide them to tha right decision. Our responsibility as a parent is to teach and guide our children to embrace what makes them special........
2. It’s a lifelong, 24/7 commitment.
When we you have children please know that you will be parents for lyfe, but what we don’t realize is that mean no matter what you must play your part to that child...... That's a title no one but you are your creator can take from you.......and that never ends. When they have a problem you have a problem, you have to be there. When they eventually go off on their own and have more familiar problems...just be prepared to put your kids’ needs before your own. You don’t have to have all tha answers all tha time, but you do have to be prepared to be that shoulder for them to cry on even when thwy mad at u for being right.....Do Take some time for you, of course, but commit to doing something that’s bigger than yourself in tha long run
3. There’s no one-size-fits-all solution to deal with problems.
Wouldn’t lyfe be great if you could just use one method to deal with your kids every time.....All of our children are different and have to be handled in tha best way to fit their unique personalities and I mean uni fuckin que...... Trying to do tha same thing for each child will only lead to extra stress for yourself.....We shouldn’t try to get them to conform; we should teach them that they are special just tha way they are. There are enough parents who will teach their kids to always color within tha lines, but just outside of those lines is where tha magic happens.....that what my grandmother used to tell me
4. All the parenting books in tha world won’t help.
Don’t get me wrong; there are some books that can help you with a few things. However, parenting is a unique experience and there are no books for some of tha crazy situations you’ll deal with....A lot of things you’ll figure out on your own, or in all reality, you’ll learn from your mistakes. Read some trusted parenting books to get a clue, but prepare to be quick on your feet and ready to handle tha unexpected. Learn how to write your own manual and go back to it when you need it....
5. Being a parent is one of tha most rewarding things you’ll ever do.
When you are actually able are giving a real opportunity......Parenting can be a hard job that doesn’t hand out raises for a job well done and There are times when you gonna question why you even had kids....but Despite tha craziness and chaos, children are amazing. They’re tha best of us and have tha opportunity to do all tha things we didn't have when growing up in lyfe........Children are a joy and privilege both male and female should get to experience. They are our legacy and will carry our heritage to tha next generation.There are many who would love to be parents, but don’t have that opportunity. Being able to parent children is something we should always be grateful for, even in tha hard times when you feel like you want to pull your hair out, take a step back and breath...just relaxs Take a nap, turn on some music, roll a blunt just remember that no matter what, you’ll be OK. You will live to parent another day and your kids will be just fine. Embrace tha chaos and do tha best job you can. Your reward will be those beautiful reflections of you.
What are some things you figured out along your parenting journey feel free to comment.......
