Friday, October 26, 2018

perpetrators of domestic violence


Myopic.



Tha chagrin of many Women, a cadre of men who love them with uncommon vigor and unending loyalty do exist. I know that these men exist because I am one of them. I know hundreds of others who think just like me. In many ways, tha assertion that men, in general, do not love and care for black women is a broad statement that does nothing other than further muddying black male and female relationships in America. Tha men within my circle consensually agree that tha above broadside attacks raise reasonable questions such as “Why should we not love, adore, and extend our loyalty to women? Aren’t they our mothers, grandmothers, aunt’s, girlfriends, daughters, sisters, nieces, and confidantes?”

Tha assertion that men, in general, do not care about domestic violence against women conflict with tha reality that one would be hard-pressed to find a female who does not have a male family member who doted over and loved tha women within his family. If you have not seen tha kindness, care, and consideration that a man has for his daughters, wife, or some other female, well then you need to expand your social circle because there are plenty of them who do. Most frustrating for tha alluded to men is tha tendency of critics to lump them into tha same boat with men that they share nothing.

It is this population that feels that the following social media request was unnecessary. The alluded to request reads as follows:

A female blackout from 8:00 a.m. to 9:00 p.m: It's a movement to show what tha world might be like without women. Your profile photo should just be a black square so that men wonder where tha women are. Pass it only to women … 


If nothing else, tha above social media campaign continues tha tradition of seeking to educate victims of domestic violence regarding deplorable violence while ignoring abusive men. If common sense were more common, domestic violence activists would understand that they are usually targeting tha wrong audience if they intend to end domestic violence. It is tha victimizer, not tha victim, who needs serious help. Yet, tha unfortunate tradition of excluding abusive men continues unabated.
In many ways, it is puzzling that those activists who oppose domestic violence so stringently have yet to understand that their failure to address tha perpetrators of domestic violence dooms their efforts.

Let be honest about this matter, domestic violence is a pressing matter in America. Although many wishes to turn a blind eye to tha matter, anyone raised in a predominantly black residential area can attest that on some occasions men batter women and on other occasions, women have been known to batter men; tha alluded to violence is present within same-sex relationships. This reality challenges tha logic that only women, tha usual victim, need to be educated or “dealt with” regarding domestic violence matters. Such a perspective is foolhardy as it leaves abusers, regardless of gender, unchanged from their violent ways. This situation must be addressed sooner rather than later.